Since I just graduated I decided to reinvest my time into building this blog site for my loved ones (and myself). I would like to start with my favorite thing to write; a list of all the things I am learning and have learned over the past year. I love these lists so much and encourage you all to do this because it really helps me to reflect on who I am and who I want to become. Also if you do this too please share it with me because I live for this kind of stuff.
Without further ado, these are my philosophical findings from 2024:
Animosity comes from a lack of understanding.
I do believe that anyone/thing can be understood and with understanding comes empathy. Think about it, so many issues come from this lack of comprehension and connection.
Seeking a sense of purpose and identity in a career rather than wages is a privilege.
To be loved is to be changed.
Jealousy and comparison are often misplaced forms of inspiration.
I'm still working on internalizing this one, but really diving into jealousy and the "why" of it all is so good for personal growth.
Practice imperfect action.
Perfectionism and achievement do not work together. One example of this that I experienced is when I learned Spanish and realized that as I learned my English got worse. I think that learning requires mistakes, so perfectionism is truly hindering to growth. Don't be the type of person that says "it's never good enough."
Don't expect people around you to change themselves to fit your needs.
This is one of the most important things on this list for me. I am looking into being a couples therapist and the first lesson is that wanting another person to change is never a good approach. Instead of seeing what they are doing wrong, we actually have to look at the "what" and "why" of our own perspective and narrative. Most of the time, we are not aware of all the baggage that we bring to the table and end up blaming the other person for it.
Good women friends are so damn important.
Materialism goes up when mental health goes down.
I'm not sure if this is just a personal issue but I think that consumers are targeted based on deficiencies, so having a negative view on life, yourself, or others makes you a victim to the industry of overconsumption.
Without a bachelor's degree I would be a completely different person.
I know that school is not for everyone and plays a huge role in classism, but in general I have found that the more I grow academically the more I am able to grow personally. The difference between me five years ago and me after college is startling.
Slow down as a way to express nonconformity and humanity.
I could talk about this for hours, but we are all made to feel rushed in every aspect of life. As someone who resists social conformity but often can't afford radical deviance from society, slowing down has really helped me to feel more human and less like a machine.
The art of being able to connect to anyone.
I'm still working on this but I have realized (especially after experiencing immense social anxiety over the past year) that avoiding social interactions is so bad for you. And trying/learning to start up a conversation with all the people around you is so rewarding for mental health, career opportunities, and other life opportunities. This coming year I really want to focus on my people skills.
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